HOW DO I BECOME MAGNETIC?
IN THIS WEEK'S NEWSLETTER,WE'VE CHARTED A COURSE ON HOW TO BECOME IRRESISTIBLY MAGNETIC. WHETHER YOU'RE ON THE QUEST TO FIND 'THE ONE' OR HOPING TO REKINDLE A LOST FLAME, THIS NEWSLETTER HOLDS THE KEY. WE'VE DELVED INTO THE CORE ATTRIBUTES OF A HIGH-VALUE INDIVIDUAL, EXPLORING ELEMENTS SUCH AS UNWAVERING CONFIDENCE, RADIANT POSITIVITY, PASSIONATE PURSUITS, AND AUTHENTIC HONESTY. WE EVEN HAVE A SPECIAL TREAT FOR OUR SYDNEY-BASED SINGLES WITH AN INVITATION TO A FESTIVE MINGLE AT BONDI BEACH.
The million-dollar question of the week: "How do I become magnetic?" is a topic that beckons our attention toward one of the essential aspects of relationships - attraction. In a world that increasingly leans towards superficial markers of attractiveness, how can we cultivate an inner allure that naturally pulls people towards us?
The answer, surprisingly, isn't complicated; it's about being a high-value person. It's not about changing who you are, but unveiling your authentic self in a way that magnetises others. But what does this look like in practice?
Confidence: Confidence is the cornerstone of being magnetic. It's about embracing who you are and being comfortable in your skin. It isn't about arrogance or bravado but a genuine belief in your abilities and worth. High-value people recognise their value and aren't afraid to show it.
Passion: There is something innately attractive about individuals who are passionate. People who have a zest for life, who have interests, hobbies, and pursuits they love, radiate an energy that draws others towards them.
Infectious positivity: High-value individuals embody positivity, radiating optimism that transforms their surroundings. They perceive life through hopeful lenses, where every challenge morphs into opportunity. Their unyielding positivity is magnetic, influencing and elevating the state of being in those around them.
Independence: Independence isn't about being alone, but being autonomous. It's about having your life, your interests, and your happiness that doesn't entirely rely on someone else. This quality demonstrates strength and resilience, making you a more attractive prospect for a balanced, healthy relationship.
Honesty: Authenticity is powerfully magnetic. Being honest, both with yourself and others, fosters trust. It involves being real, allowing your actions to align with your words, and making you more appealing and trustworthy. Being authentic also means directly communicating what you seek in a partner and outlining your ideal relationship. It's about having the courage to state your needs and desires without fear of judgment or rejection, thereby setting the groundwork for a genuine and satisfying partnership.
The popular book, "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov, aligns brilliantly with this concept of magnetism, providing readers with tangible, actionable strategies on how to become more attractive by simply being authentic and high-value. In the book, the term 'bitch' isn't derogatory; it's an acronym for Babe In Total Control of Herself. It's about being a strong, independent woman who knows her worth and isn't afraid to demand respect. The 'bitch' in the book isn't playing games to snag a man; instead, she's living her best life, and in the process, becomes irresistible to those around her.
The book drives home the importance of setting standards, maintaining independence, and upholding your dignity, even when in a relationship. The emphasis isn't on manipulating men into committing but on becoming such a high-value woman that men naturally want to be part of your life.
In the realm of authenticity, Argov specifically stresses the importance of being forthright about your desires and needs in a relationship. The 'bitch' does not tiptoe around delicate issues but addresses them head-on, conveying her expectations and boundaries clearly and respectfully. This approach leaves no room for confusion and sets the stage for a relationship built on mutual understanding and respect.
As Argov's book illustrates, becoming magnetic isn't about 'gaming' attraction, but cultivating a set of values that not only draw people towards you but also enrich your life. At its core, it's about embracing the idea that you, as an individual, hold value and are capable of engaging in meaningful, enriching relationships.
The pursuit of magnetism is a journey, not a destination. It's a continuous process of growth and self-improvement. But remember, while it's important to work on ourselves, it's also crucial to seek relationships with those who recognise and appreciate our value. After all, like attracts like, and being a high-value person tends to attract others of the same caliber.
Remember, the most magnetic trait you can possess is the belief in your inherent worth. You are enough, just as you are.
Until next week!
P.S. Before we wrap up this week's edition, I have an exciting announcement! If you're a single in Sydney, you're invited to a special event I'm co-hosting with relationship and intimacy coach Aurelie Hervet at Bondi Beach.
We're turning Bondi Liquor Co into a vibrant winter wonderland for a special Christmas-themed mix and mingle. This isn't your typical singles' mixer—no awkward silences or forced small talk. Instead, we've designed engaging icebreakers and festive activities to keep the conversation flowing and the laughter rolling.
This is a chance to let your personality shine brighter than any Christmas tree. Don a red-and-green outfit, pull out your most charmingly ugly Christmas sweater, or turn heads with an elegant, winter-themed ensemble. The spotlight is yours, so be ready to make a memorable impression!
Adding a fun twist to the evening, we're organising a Secret Santa gift exchange. Come prepared with a gift, and who knows, you may end up swapping more than just presents; perhaps phone numbers too!
Whether you're hoping to meet that special someone or simply looking for a night of festive fun, this event promises to be a delightful experience. Join us and step into the Christmas spirit!
Nicole is a certified trauma-informed dating and relationship coach who specialises in helping people navigate the complex world of modern love and dating as well as attract and cultivate healthy relationships. Her areas of focus include mindset, attachment, trauma, relationship patterning, inner child and abandonment wounds, communication, conflict management, trust issues, confidence, co-dependency, boundary work, breakups, and infidelity.
