Are you hung up on your ex?
PICTURE THIS: YOU’RE OUT AND ABOUT RUNNING ERRANDS, CHECKING OFF YOUR TO-DO LIST WITH EASE, AND FEELING LIKE YOU’VE GOT EVERYTHING UNDER CONTROL. UNTIL, OUT OF NOWHERE, YOU RUN INTO YOUR EX. THE ONE YOU THOUGHT YOU WERE OVER. THE ONE WHOSE MERE PRESENCE SENDS YOU SPIRALLING BACK TO THE MOMENT YOU BROKE UP.
Suddenly, your world comes crashing down around you as you try to put on a brave face and pretend like crossing paths with them hasn’t thrown you for a loop. But inside, you’re a mess. It’s been a year, and you thought you were done with them. But as you stand there, face to face with your past, you realise that maybe you’re not as over it as you thought.
Let’s face it; the pain of a breakup is undeniably one of life’s toughest challenges. It’s the kind of thing that keeps you up at night tossing and turning, wondering where they are or what they’re doing, while scrolling through old text messages and replaying all the “what ifs” in your mind. And let’s not forget about the endless tubs of ice cream, because everyone knows that bingeing Netflix with Messina is the ultimate remedy for a broken heart.
But the truth is, there’s no shortcut to getting over an ex. In fact, it’s not uncommon for feelings to still linger long after the relationship has ended, and even when you know that the breakup is for the best.
But what exactly makes it so hard to let go and move forward?
This week on PopSugar I’m sharing my best advice on how to get over your ex - read it here.
NICOLE COLANTONI
Nicole is a certified dating and relationship coach who specialises in helping people navigate the complex world of modern love and dating as well as attract and cultivate healthy relationships. Her areas of focus include mindset, attachment, trauma, relationship patterning, inner child and abandonment wounds, communication, conflict management, trust issues, confidence, co-dependency, boundary work, breakups, and infidelity.
